"The One"... for right now

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer on June 1, 2009 at 12:29am

I totally agree! I hate the whole idea of there only being one soul mate for each person...that is so limiting! So what, am I supposed to be uber nice to every guy I ever talk to for fear that I may scare off my one and only soul mate! LAME!

Permalink Reply by allison on June 1, 2009 at 3:03am

That's fabulous insight on the matter. I feel that my college and early 20's relationship was an effective one at the time of my life. Now that I'm in my mid to late 20's I need something different. I believe that you can marry and you can change together as you grow older, and it can work.But some ppl just don't fit in different stages of your life. (when you get fat after pregnancy, have cancer etc)
I know men who didn't know how to handle the transition of their wives having cancer....couldn't be attracted to a woman with the breast surgery. Really , you just have to find someone who is ready to be there in every part of your life. I don't there is one person out there who can do it...It just has to be someone who it in there for the long run!!!

Permalink Reply by Faker on June 1, 2009 at 7:03am

Maybe I am being a romantic, but I think there is "The One Forever". I know its almost impossible to know if they are right for you "forever" but it is depressing to think that the one you love, your "soul mate". Is goin to leave you because you are not their "One" anymore and Right now has past.

I wrote a post a while back about trying to find "The One". If you are not annoyed by this blatant advertising for my blog then please check out that post.

http://fakerwithin.blogspot.com/2008/11/what-i-want.html

Permalink Reply by T ™ on June 1, 2009 at 11:00am

I agree with you.

I'm actually not much of a romantic myself but i feel like if any one goes in to a relationship thinking
that at any time when things get rough they can jump out and find someone else... is a complete waste of time for the other person.

I mean, being IN-LOVE and having a serious relationship or a marriage means far more then loving each other.

its a commitment, otherwise... what good is it? I think if ur looking for the "right one" at the "right time" and drop them when its convenient makes them sort of opportunistic.

I would certainly not want to be with anyone who thinks like that.

Permalink Reply by Kimolisa Mings on June 1, 2009 at 12:29pm

I'm sure a lot of people are aware of Star Trek by now, so it's easy to make this reference. I have to parts to me, the Spock like part and the romantic part. The Spock part is very logical and analytical and would agree that with all the people in the world, it's impossible to meet "the one". I once watched a clip online where a catholic priest was saying that there are millions of people on this planet what is the probability of finding this ideal person in your country, in your town, in your social circle, it is incredibly small. Plus what happens if you met "the one" but at the time you didn't know it was "the one".

Then there is the romantic part that wishes there is someone who is "the one", who will love you warts and all.

So I'll seesaw between both parts of me and enjoy life. I will also be open to whatever life brings my way.

Permalink Reply by Nikkie Hamilton on June 1, 2009 at 4:27pm

I dated a guy for 5.5 years (from 16-21) and we were actually engaged for a year. He was everything I could have asked for and we had a strong healthy relationship... while in high school and college. After college, nothing we wanted was the same. I wanted to move to a larger city and work for a public CPA firm. He wanted to move home and farm. We tried, but there was no in between. He was my best friend and "The One" when we dated in high school and college. But I feel the article was right, there is someone else that I'm supposed to be with now that I'm in a different stage in my life. I'm not saying to always give up, but there is only so much fighting for that you can do.

Permalink Reply by Faker on June 1, 2009 at 5:46pm

One of my best friends was in the same type of situation. She and her ex went out for 6 years and she and everyone else thought they would be together forever but it just didn't work out. I'm not saying what you had wasn't real because it was, all i am saying is that I have learnt that when going into a serious relationship at a young age, the chances are they won't last. Mainly because you both needed to mature and figure out what you wanted in your lives. Unless you are very lucky, your wants are going to be different.

I don't know the details so I don't want to offend, I believe that you loved him but I don't think he was your soulmate. If he was then he will be back in your life at some point.

That is my pure belief of what "The One" or "soulmate" is.