The Bloggers With The Most To Say
Starangel's Groups
Gifts Received
Starangel has not received any gifts yet
Starangel's Page
Profile Information
- Where do you live:
- Mississippi
- Relationship Status:
- Single, Looking
- About Me:
- Just a Southern single girl trying to make it in the world.
- Other blogs and Social Media:
- http://www.twitter.com/starangel82
- Age:
- 26
- How long have you been blogging:
- 8 months
- Fill in the blank: "People who like _________ will love my blog!"
- relationships, dating, sex, random musings, cooking, humor
- What makes you different from other bloggers?
- I bring sarcasm and humor to the dating world. And life in general.
Assumptions
Original post can be found here: Rantings Of A Single Girl
Earlier this week, I took a class. This class put me in a room full of women that I would place in their late 40s-early 60s. Needless to say, I was the youngest woman in the room. No problem. I can hold my own, believe me.
Anyway, at the end of the class we were just hanging about talking and waiting for the instructor to try to print some information off for us. It was finally down to me and two other women. The instructor was just absentmindedly handing us papers.... one of the women took the paper and tried to hand it to the other woman telling her she didn't mind waiting. That woman said no, give it to me because I had family to get home to. I tried to give it to them, but eventually I took it. Because apparently I had a family to get home to.
As I was driving home, that statement really started to make me mad. Not once in that class did I mention I was single or married. I never said anything about a husband, boyfriend, or significant other. I never mentioned a peep about a kid. I wasn't even wearing a ring on my left hand. So what led that lady to assume I had a family to get home to?
Simple mistake... or just an assumption, sure. But it is the assumption that is killing me. Kind of like you don't ask a woman if she's pregnant unless she's visibly in labor. I enjoy being single. Sure, I date and am looking for someone to share my life with, but the world will not end if I end up a spinster with 1 cat and 5 dogs. What if I had just gone through a nasty divorce and was taking that class to get my mind off things? What if (heaven forbid) I had recently miscarried a baby or lost a child?
I know it was the typical Southern way of thinking that all women must be married and have popped out at least one kid by the age of 30. Yes, I'm crazy... and maybe it's because I hadn't eaten since lunch and it was going on 8:30 PM. Maybe it's because I'm just tired of people assuming I have someone because of my age, but the assumption that I had a family to get home to just bugged me.
Earlier this week, I took a class. This class put me in a room full of women that I would place in their late 40s-early 60s. Needless to say, I was the youngest woman in the room. No problem. I can hold my own, believe me.
Anyway, at the end of the class we were just hanging about talking and waiting for the instructor to try to print some information off for us. It was finally down to me and two other women. The instructor was just absentmindedly handing us papers.... one of the women took the paper and tried to hand it to the other woman telling her she didn't mind waiting. That woman said no, give it to me because I had family to get home to. I tried to give it to them, but eventually I took it. Because apparently I had a family to get home to.
As I was driving home, that statement really started to make me mad. Not once in that class did I mention I was single or married. I never said anything about a husband, boyfriend, or significant other. I never mentioned a peep about a kid. I wasn't even wearing a ring on my left hand. So what led that lady to assume I had a family to get home to?
Simple mistake... or just an assumption, sure. But it is the assumption that is killing me. Kind of like you don't ask a woman if she's pregnant unless she's visibly in labor. I enjoy being single. Sure, I date and am looking for someone to share my life with, but the world will not end if I end up a spinster with 1 cat and 5 dogs. What if I had just gone through a nasty divorce and was taking that class to get my mind off things? What if (heaven forbid) I had recently miscarried a baby or lost a child?
I know it was the typical Southern way of thinking that all women must be married and have popped out at least one kid by the age of 30. Yes, I'm crazy... and maybe it's because I hadn't eaten since lunch and it was going on 8:30 PM. Maybe it's because I'm just tired of people assuming I have someone because of my age, but the assumption that I had a family to get home to just bugged me.
© 2012 Created by Lisa.
Comment Wall (1 comment)
You need to be a member of 20 Something Bloggers to add comments!
Join 20 Something Bloggers