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HOW TO: BE SEXIER
Let me tell you something right now...I am not (in any way) one of the writers who thinks that she knows everything about everything, or a little something about everything. I just know what I know. Like Oprah, there are a few things I know for sure. And one of those sureties just happen to surround the idea and conceptualization of the modern 'sexy' woman. You don't have to agree with anything that I write in this post, but promise me that you'll take something from it. Because, it's true.
Being sexy isn't complicated. Take it from me. I've been sexy (according to my own standards) since 1986...which might sound a little awkward but just hear me out. Sexy is a mentality. I'm certain that I've said that before in one of my previous posts but the reason I want to hone in on the idea today is because I've realized that, in modern media, we're beginning to turn our attention away from the classic beauty and zoom in on modern women who have a style and image all their own. Their no longer looking molded and created, they just exist in the center of their feminine happiness. And that excites me.
I'm not suggesting that you aren't already sexy. Hence, "sexier" in the blog's title. I'm simply insinuating that your sexy may be able to benefit from a tune up. And here's how:
1) Put your insecurities in storage. Box up all of your ideas about yourself...i.e. thighs too jiggly, hair too brittle, head too big, etc. and start over. How you look is HOW YOU'LL ALWAYS LOOK unless you take advantage of plastic surgery. So, I suggest that you own it and wear it like this year's freshest fur fashions. Because, everyone can smell your insecurities (seriously). The people who don't like you are thrilled because you don't love yourself and those who really want to like you are turned off.
2) Rate your mood in ALL of your clothes. If you have clothes (like most of us do) that you wear but you never, ever feel attractive in...what the heck is the point? Clothes aren't cheap. Every purchase is an investment. So, do me a favor and stop wearing your jeans from middle school okay because a)your ankles are cold and b)dungarees are for the cotton field.
3) Date someone new. Okay, don't take this the wrong way but so many of us are involved with people who don't make us feel sexy. When you're around that person, you have the subconscious desire to wear sweatpant-capris and avoid a comb at all costs. So...either you're too comfortable or you don't give a damn about what your beau thinks. You're both suffering...and it's sad. So, start fresh and date someone who you want to impress or do what I do...wear pumps when you're cooking for the one who's loved you for years.
4) Look alive. This is important to me. Seriously...because you've taken the fact that "black is slimming" too far. If someone is always asking you if you've just attended a funeral, you need to make some life changes. Think about what make you glow. If drinking tea makes you sparkle, then for God's sakes buy more LIPTON'S. If you love lip gloss, why are your lips always dry? I've realized, in my short lifetime, that women tend to suffer for no reason. We have long lists of things we love, but we rarely do them. The things and activities that fulfill us are always at the end of the to-do list and its a shame. Just give to yourself as much (if not more) than you give to everyone else. If you love taking photos, why is your camera in the attic? If you love travelling, why if your passport expired? Do what you love and your glow will be blinding. I'm convinced.
Being sexy isn't hard...but once you've established and maintained your sexy...it's hard to get sexier because you are so certain that your old tricks don't need editing. And they do! If you're no longer turning heads, its because you need to change your mind about yourself. Maybe your red pumps were hott in 2000, but now they look a little more like brown mules from all the club hopping you've done. So refresh. Rethink. And...re-do. If you don't feel sexy, that's your fault. There's no requirement to be a certain size, complexion, or have a certain hair cut/grade. EVERY WOMAN should feel sexy in 2010. There are no excuses.
And that's real.
Being sexy isn't complicated. Take it from me. I've been sexy (according to my own standards) since 1986...which might sound a little awkward but just hear me out. Sexy is a mentality. I'm certain that I've said that before in one of my previous posts but the reason I want to hone in on the idea today is because I've realized that, in modern media, we're beginning to turn our attention away from the classic beauty and zoom in on modern women who have a style and image all their own. Their no longer looking molded and created, they just exist in the center of their feminine happiness. And that excites me.
I'm not suggesting that you aren't already sexy. Hence, "sexier" in the blog's title. I'm simply insinuating that your sexy may be able to benefit from a tune up. And here's how:
1) Put your insecurities in storage. Box up all of your ideas about yourself...i.e. thighs too jiggly, hair too brittle, head too big, etc. and start over. How you look is HOW YOU'LL ALWAYS LOOK unless you take advantage of plastic surgery. So, I suggest that you own it and wear it like this year's freshest fur fashions. Because, everyone can smell your insecurities (seriously). The people who don't like you are thrilled because you don't love yourself and those who really want to like you are turned off.
2) Rate your mood in ALL of your clothes. If you have clothes (like most of us do) that you wear but you never, ever feel attractive in...what the heck is the point? Clothes aren't cheap. Every purchase is an investment. So, do me a favor and stop wearing your jeans from middle school okay because a)your ankles are cold and b)dungarees are for the cotton field.
3) Date someone new. Okay, don't take this the wrong way but so many of us are involved with people who don't make us feel sexy. When you're around that person, you have the subconscious desire to wear sweatpant-capris and avoid a comb at all costs. So...either you're too comfortable or you don't give a damn about what your beau thinks. You're both suffering...and it's sad. So, start fresh and date someone who you want to impress or do what I do...wear pumps when you're cooking for the one who's loved you for years.
4) Look alive. This is important to me. Seriously...because you've taken the fact that "black is slimming" too far. If someone is always asking you if you've just attended a funeral, you need to make some life changes. Think about what make you glow. If drinking tea makes you sparkle, then for God's sakes buy more LIPTON'S. If you love lip gloss, why are your lips always dry? I've realized, in my short lifetime, that women tend to suffer for no reason. We have long lists of things we love, but we rarely do them. The things and activities that fulfill us are always at the end of the to-do list and its a shame. Just give to yourself as much (if not more) than you give to everyone else. If you love taking photos, why is your camera in the attic? If you love travelling, why if your passport expired? Do what you love and your glow will be blinding. I'm convinced.
Being sexy isn't hard...but once you've established and maintained your sexy...it's hard to get sexier because you are so certain that your old tricks don't need editing. And they do! If you're no longer turning heads, its because you need to change your mind about yourself. Maybe your red pumps were hott in 2000, but now they look a little more like brown mules from all the club hopping you've done. So refresh. Rethink. And...re-do. If you don't feel sexy, that's your fault. There's no requirement to be a certain size, complexion, or have a certain hair cut/grade. EVERY WOMAN should feel sexy in 2010. There are no excuses.
And that's real.
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