letter that i'll never send

"...he's so good to me..." When I read that, I actually screamed. Thinking about it now makes me cringe. You have NO idea. I could tell you so many things that he IS, and good to women would never make that list.

I'm really angry at you (at, not with, because you clearly never considered my feelings). No, I don't know you, but you represent any woman that would knowingly become involved with a man that has a family. Who does that? And adding to my confusion, I wonder what kind of mother would do that to another? And seriously, how can a woman become involved in a relationship with a man which began with cheating, not thinking it will end in the same way, with another "someone else"? I think of all the text messages, times you were chatting with him, knowing that he was at home with us -- with me, with our children. The complete disrespect and disregard for our family that that implies! That is not to say that I don't take deeper issue with his actions (if it wasn't you, it would have been someone else), but you are culpable in your own right. You made choices that affected people outside of your bubble, and you should be aware of that.

I know the ex better than anyone. I used to call him charming, but it's just manipulation. This man -- the one wooing you, chasing you, with the ebullient laugh and puppy dog eyes -- he won't stick around. He will show you who he is: manipulative, controlling, narcissistic, never feels better than when he's putting you down, you'll see that the life of the party is just an alcoholic. As much as I can't stand you, I pity you for being sucked in. You'll see, and you'll be sorry.

"...he's so good to me..." Bitch, please. If only that were true!

You aren't the first, you won't be the last. But one thing that makes me smile: the next time he cheats, it won't be on me!