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Why Women are Stupid
Ok fine. Why women are sometimes stupid. Because seriously, we are. I know I always seem to have the perfect advice for my friends when it comes to their relationships, and I honestly believe if they’d heed my advice, they’d be a lot better off. My secret is to always separate your feelings from your head. If you think with your head, and not your feelings, you will be set for life. However, I realize, especially when it comes to my own relationships, that it’s impossible. That’s why you need a friend like me to think for you! And honestly, I wish my friends were as smart as me because if they were, then I’d probably take their advice.
But enough. This is why women are stupid–because you start dating a guy and even though you very quickly realize there is some inherent flaw that you know will not work longterm, you KEEP DATING, hoping this inherent flaw will either go away, turn to be not that big of a deal, or somehow change. AND IT NEVER DOES.
Example #1: Ms. K
I’ve written of Ms. K and her dysfunctional relationship many a time. She’s been dating this loser for six months (going on seven) who refuses to commit to her. She finally had the balls to tell him it’s over, but nevertheless, she doesn’t want it to be over, so she called him after two weeks. He never once contacted her during that time frame. I’ve decided to keep my mouth shut this time around. It’s hard to watch my friend do such damage to herself. He’s a great guy, she tells me. Yeah, I tell our friends, but if she withheld the sex do you think he would still stick around? None of them answer.
The worst part is Ms. K could have saved herself these six (almost seven) months of trying to get him to commit to her. Within the first couple of weeks of dating, he told her “I don’t believe in marriage.” Helllloooo? RED FLAG, ABORT MISSION, ABORT MISSION!!! Even Tom Cruise gets told “This is your mission, should you choose to accept it.” Why do we as women make it our mission to somehow change these guys? She could have saved herself the agony and met some other wonderful guy in those six months. Now she’s just continuing with this loser and will waste even more time for god knows how long until she finally realizes that–oh my gosh–he doesn’t want to get married!!!
Conclusion: Stupid woman
Example #2: Roomie
An old roommate of mine who I’ve known since freshmen year of high school has been “dating,” –if you can even call it that–homeboy for about a year and a half now. I have a feeling she’s been doing it for lack of better options, because there is nothing about this relationship that suggests it’s going to be long term. They have tried to be officially together, he shuts down. They have tried being friends, he’s rude to her, gets drunk and calls her over for sex. She follows. They have tried being fuck buddies, even though that’s not really what she wants. He’s hot and cold, and she deals with it. Again, this whole year and a half could have been avoided if she had aborted the mission when she saw the red flag–He’s Christian, she’s Jewish.
He’s really Christian, she’s not very Jewish, but she’s non-religious enough that she could never marry anyone extremely religious, which he is. She took his virginity. He’s 30. He has to marry a Christian. There’s no way she would ever convert. And yet…they keep dating.
Conclusion: Stupid Woman
Example #3: Yours Truly
I fell head over heels for He Who Shall Not Be Named. He was hot, had a stable job, manly, funny and I was trying to get over The Ex. It was a deadly combination and I fell for it. I had a series of small red flags. When I was over for dinner, his brother was bragging about his own sexual exploits, claiming he had slept with 30 women. I was a bit flabbergasted but I assumed that even though his brother had slept with a lot of people, there was no way He Who Shall Not Be Named could have slept with that many women. He didn’t strike me as that kind of a guy, even though there was the little voice in the back of my head saying “Birds of a feather…” About a month after we started dating, I ran into his ex at the mall. I found out he had been dating some other girl, and I assumed that he had already stopped dating her because now he was dating me. I didn’t even bother to ask if he was still dating her, for fear that it might cause tension. After three months, one drunken night, I texted him and asked is he was still seeing other people. He was. I ended it the next day. Two weeks later, he texted. I knew it, I thought! I knew he would want me back. After about a month, I realized I had just become his booty call. I ended it again. I was so stupid, I ignored all the signs because I wanted to believe something else. Something that wasn’t real.
Conclusion: Stupid woman.
If you meet a man, and there is something that you know you cannot live with for the rest of your life–assuming you want to get married–then move on to the next guy. I don’t care how wonderful everything else about him is, this flaw will not go away. And 10 years down the line, when you’re filing for divorce and you realize this flaw was the main reason for that divorce, you’ll remember my advice and you’ll wish you would have listened…
But enough. This is why women are stupid–because you start dating a guy and even though you very quickly realize there is some inherent flaw that you know will not work longterm, you KEEP DATING, hoping this inherent flaw will either go away, turn to be not that big of a deal, or somehow change. AND IT NEVER DOES.
Example #1: Ms. K
I’ve written of Ms. K and her dysfunctional relationship many a time. She’s been dating this loser for six months (going on seven) who refuses to commit to her. She finally had the balls to tell him it’s over, but nevertheless, she doesn’t want it to be over, so she called him after two weeks. He never once contacted her during that time frame. I’ve decided to keep my mouth shut this time around. It’s hard to watch my friend do such damage to herself. He’s a great guy, she tells me. Yeah, I tell our friends, but if she withheld the sex do you think he would still stick around? None of them answer.
The worst part is Ms. K could have saved herself these six (almost seven) months of trying to get him to commit to her. Within the first couple of weeks of dating, he told her “I don’t believe in marriage.” Helllloooo? RED FLAG, ABORT MISSION, ABORT MISSION!!! Even Tom Cruise gets told “This is your mission, should you choose to accept it.” Why do we as women make it our mission to somehow change these guys? She could have saved herself the agony and met some other wonderful guy in those six months. Now she’s just continuing with this loser and will waste even more time for god knows how long until she finally realizes that–oh my gosh–he doesn’t want to get married!!!
Conclusion: Stupid woman
Example #2: Roomie
An old roommate of mine who I’ve known since freshmen year of high school has been “dating,” –if you can even call it that–homeboy for about a year and a half now. I have a feeling she’s been doing it for lack of better options, because there is nothing about this relationship that suggests it’s going to be long term. They have tried to be officially together, he shuts down. They have tried being friends, he’s rude to her, gets drunk and calls her over for sex. She follows. They have tried being fuck buddies, even though that’s not really what she wants. He’s hot and cold, and she deals with it. Again, this whole year and a half could have been avoided if she had aborted the mission when she saw the red flag–He’s Christian, she’s Jewish.
He’s really Christian, she’s not very Jewish, but she’s non-religious enough that she could never marry anyone extremely religious, which he is. She took his virginity. He’s 30. He has to marry a Christian. There’s no way she would ever convert. And yet…they keep dating.
Conclusion: Stupid Woman
Example #3: Yours Truly
I fell head over heels for He Who Shall Not Be Named. He was hot, had a stable job, manly, funny and I was trying to get over The Ex. It was a deadly combination and I fell for it. I had a series of small red flags. When I was over for dinner, his brother was bragging about his own sexual exploits, claiming he had slept with 30 women. I was a bit flabbergasted but I assumed that even though his brother had slept with a lot of people, there was no way He Who Shall Not Be Named could have slept with that many women. He didn’t strike me as that kind of a guy, even though there was the little voice in the back of my head saying “Birds of a feather…” About a month after we started dating, I ran into his ex at the mall. I found out he had been dating some other girl, and I assumed that he had already stopped dating her because now he was dating me. I didn’t even bother to ask if he was still dating her, for fear that it might cause tension. After three months, one drunken night, I texted him and asked is he was still seeing other people. He was. I ended it the next day. Two weeks later, he texted. I knew it, I thought! I knew he would want me back. After about a month, I realized I had just become his booty call. I ended it again. I was so stupid, I ignored all the signs because I wanted to believe something else. Something that wasn’t real.
Conclusion: Stupid woman.
If you meet a man, and there is something that you know you cannot live with for the rest of your life–assuming you want to get married–then move on to the next guy. I don’t care how wonderful everything else about him is, this flaw will not go away. And 10 years down the line, when you’re filing for divorce and you realize this flaw was the main reason for that divorce, you’ll remember my advice and you’ll wish you would have listened…
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