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Door-Holding Etiquette...Why oh why do so few people have manners
I cannot believe how many people do not hold doors. Is it really that time-consuming to be polite?! There will be a time that is sets me off and this is what will happen http://fistfuloffolly.blogspot.com/2011/11/i-work-in-office-park-wh...
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Permalink Reply by Freeman Dyson on -
I hold the door for a dozen or so people a day and have the same done in return. People of all ages and colors. Everybody does it. It gets awkward cause you got people doing it for people who are like 10 meters away. You ever have that happen? You're in that awkward situation where they are kind of out of the range for door holding etiquette, and you don't really wanna sit there and hold the door like a fool for 20 seconds. Looks like you're trying too hard and I rarely do it and don't really like it when people do it to me. But you also don't wan't to look rude for cutting them out over a few feet. You can often notice it in advance and speed up or slow down as not to make it awkward for the person. To take yourself out of that weird range, that no man's land, where you have to decide to hold it open or just move on with your life. I'll do that. I'll see two of us walking to a building. Somebody in front of me. I'll slow down or speed up before they get to the door so they aren't pressured to hold it open for a long time.
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Permalink Reply by alynrogers on -
You are SO spot on about the awkward distance. There's nothing worse than making someone rush, meanwhile you were just trying to be nice. There's such a difficult fine line of door-holding etiquette!
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Permalink Reply by Freeman Dyson on
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I've thought about this before. We may be better off without it. Is opening a door really that hard? We've created this complex social practice that is actually more difficult than the initial problem itself. Which was closed doors. I also don't like it because I have to talk to people. I have to thank them.
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Permalink Reply by alynrogers on
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I agree with you to an extent. Absolutely, if the person is feet behind you, fair enough, keep walking. When you are right behind someone and they let the door go, it's just plain ole' rude.
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Permalink Reply by Anthony Licari on -
The same thought came to mind when I read the post title. I say thanks everytime and I don't mind it if others don't say thanks. I do get irritated when I'm 2 feet from the door, the person looks me directly in the eyes and then lets it close. What is that?
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Permalink Reply by Tim Clements on -
It's always worst when an attractive woman holds the door for you. For some reason men feel compelled to say "Sorry" rather than a simple "Thanks". Almost as if society has us brainwashed such that we must avoid troubling anyone we think looks good.
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Permalink Reply by Freeman Dyson on
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Yes, with attractive women it is the most awkward. I usually treat attractive women worse than I do everybody else though. I'll wait less to hold a door for them, I'll tip them less at the bar, I'll talk to them less and pay less attention to them, etc. Just seems like the right thing to do.
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Permalink Reply by Erin McCarthy on -
Lol
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Permalink Reply by Tyla Kells on -
So I take it when you go out to bars you're the wingman?
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
I once made the mistake of holding the door for a man on a mobility scooter who was seriously proud of his ability to open doors for himself. He tore quite a strip off me. Other than that, I find people are pretty good about it for the most part.
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Permalink Reply by cooper on -
If holding or or holding a door open is the biggest conundrum someone faces then more power too them. Sometimes you do it sometimes you don't. I really don't see it as much of an issue. I think most people hold doors open when necessary, and once in awhile someone slips up.
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Permalink Reply by Sam Huizinga on -
I'll hold the door open if someone is right behind me or about to walk out. Its just polite to do so. If someone is behind me at a length where I don't want to stand there for 20 seconds then I wont. Just like Freeman said. If I see someone with bags or a stroller I'll stand there. Help them out. I appreciate it when someone does that for me.
I hate when I'm behind someone and they just let the door close. I will usually have some comment to say behind them, like a sarcastic thanks or some curse words. It bothers me too when I don't get a "thank you." But be the bigger person I say.
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